Parenting in any situation

You don't have to be in the middle of a legal battle to have problems raising your children. Below are links to a series of articles by Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW, that may help you with a parenting, marital or family issue. Gary Direnfeld is an expert on child development, parent-child relations, marital therapy and family therapy.

	Article	Description
1	Your Past Matters	Kid out of control? Maybe how you were parented factors in.
2	Choosing Mr. Right	Strategies for mate selection!
3	Bless the Coach	Let them do their job and let sportsmanship rule the day!
4	Conflict of Libidos	Your drive may be different, but this doesn't have to be a deal breaker....
5	Therapy? Yes, but what type?	Be sure to discuss your problem with the therapist BEFORE setting an appointment..
6	My Child is Odd	Hangs out with the adults, class clown, bullied, uses phrases or humour but inappropriately...
7	Out of Control and Pseudomature Teens	Hang in... change is a rough ride and starts with the parents....
8	The First Few Years Of School	Is your young child having problems at school?
9	Issues in Determining Learning Disabilities	Learning disabilities aren't always obvious. Sometimes, you have to dig deeper...
10	Marriages On The Cusp	Counselling may always be of service, even if the marriage fails...
11	Parents: Invest in your relationship	Recharging your batteries gives you more energy to parent the kids...
12	Save your money and get on the floor	It's not the toys that count, but your amount of play time together...
13	Rebuilding Trust	Do you know how long or what it takes to rebuilt trust when broken? This article holds some clues...
14	When isn’t child sex play just sex play?	Do you know the difference between developmentally appropriate sexual play and inappropriate sexual behaviour in children?
15	Am I Fat?	How would you answer if your child asked?
16	The Pre-Marital Toilet Test	This one question before marriage could determine how long it lasts...
17	Drinking and Parenting	Do you know how much can lead to trouble?
18	Sibling Harmony Versus Rivalry	Don't confuse different developmental stages for lack of love...
19	Ah, Newlyweds… then reality sets in.	Getting used to each other? Here's what to think about...
20	Effects of Exposure to Domestic Violence From Childhood to Adult Life	Domestic violence affects children in the present and in adult life. Here's how...
21	Assessing Change	Not sure if therapy or treatment is working? Here is how you figure it out...
22	Need help parenting a teen?	Are you a parent or a friend? It makes a world of difference in managing behaviour!
23	When a Child With Special Needs and Complex Disabilities Surfaces with Behaviour Problems	Where do you start?
24	On Coping with Death…	Children grieve too. Here's how...
25	Affairs Are About Anything But Love	Don't kid yourself and worse, don't compromise your integrity...
26	Parents can help prevent teen driver car crashes	Parents! You are the path to the keys...
27	Who's In Charge Anyways?	Grandparents, parents, children... Making it work when living together...
28	Living with Abortion	An abortion is an event in time, living with with the decision lasts a lifetime.
29	Childhood Sexual Abuse and Adult Intimate Life	It starts with understanding and education, then permission...
30	Assessing and Managing School-Age Children with Behavioral Problems	Get it right because getting it wrong only makes problems worse. Here's how...
31	The Granddaddy of All New Years Resolutions	All others pale next to this one...
32	Sibling issues when one has special needs: Am I my brother’s keeper?	How do you support siblings whose brother or sister many have special needs?
33	Parental Guilt and Kids with Special Needs	Some parents experience severe guilt for the special needs of their kids. Let's take a look at it...
34	The Impact of Formative Experiences	As we learn, so shall we do... but not necessarily.
35	But He’s an Angel at Home	Does your child get into trouble at daycare or school, yet is good at home? Consider this...
36	Check the Pulse Before Pulling the Plug	Divorce doesn't have to be inevitable. There may still be some life in the marriage.
37	Children and the Aftermath of Katrina: From fear to hope	Key strategies can encourage adjustment and hope.
38	Build Rapport to Facilitate Teen Behaviour	Teen out of control and consequences rising - what's a parent to do?
39	Tethered By The Electronic Umbilicus	Do you connect with your kids through the relationship or electronic devices? The relationship works better. Here's why...
40	Will Your Kids Be Of “Good Character”?	Learn the two secrets to raising kids of "good character".
41	Guiding Principle	Follow this advise and lead a life of feeling good.
42	Stepbrothers Teach Their Parents	Things change, adjustments needs to be facilitated. Here's one good one for the books!
43	Hitting hurts. So does exposure to it as a kid	Exposure to domestic violence is harmful to children. This article explains... (Domestic Violence - PowerPoint Presentations)
44	Married Boomers Face Their Own Perfect Storm	Do you know the three major life events that can take a toll on your marriage if hit all at once?
45	Marital Therapy?	Marital therapy requires specialized training, distinguishing it from family therapy and individual therapy.
46	Think Your Teen Needs Counselling?	Exasperated parents of teens see counselling as a way to help. However, parents are advised to meet with the counsellor first. Here's why.
47	Which Dog Do You Feed?	Managing behaviour is a little like feeding dogs. Here's how...
48	Bribery vs. Reinforcement	Parents are right. Bribery does not work. However, reinforcement does. Here's the difference...
49	Good Teens Start With Good Beans	Growing up kids to become good teens is like making coffee. Here's how it works...
50	Check Ingredients Before Blending	If you are a separated parent who is seriously dating, consider these points to ease your children's adjustment before marriage or cohabiting
51	Instant Messaging - get with the program	Parents are worried their kids spend too much time "chatting" on-line. Here's my advice.
52	Counselling: Knowing your options	You've decided on counselling, but do you use private or public services... EAP or third party benefits? This article explains the differences.
53	Preschooler Behaviour: Who's the Boss	Some preschoolers learn to manipulate their parents feelings to get out of doing as they're told. Here's what to do.
54	Sexual Abuse Counselling	Sexual Abuse Counselling can help! This article explains what's involved.
55	Is your 8 – 10 year old boy/girl crazy?	Want to know what to do?
56	Depression: Youth, Counselling and Antidepressants	As if parents didn't have enough to worry about if their teen was depressed, now they have to worry about the effects of medication. This articles discusses the role of medication and counseling in treating depression. Listen to a 20 minute discussion on Teen Depression (Adolescent Anxiety and Depression - PowerPoint Presentation)
57	First comes love, then comes marriage…	Do you know the stages to a successful long-term relationship?
58	My Partner is Alcoholic. Can you help?	This article discusses 5 stages to recovery and challenges to sobriety.
59	Finding Joy in Your Children	Managing children means more than control or discipline. It includes joy. This article describes the use of joy to rekindle or maximize parent-child relationships.
60	Joy – Survey and Results	This link takes you to the survey and replies on which the above article is based upon. There are some great examples of ways to find joy in your children.
61	Appreciating Developmental Milestones	This article explains what is meant by developmental milestones and why the concept is important. The article is well suited to parents of preschoolers and early school age children.
62	Internet Safety and Children	This article describes warning signs for Internet misuse and prevention strategies.
63	Home from University	A tongue in cheek article about kids returning home from first year university.
64	Thinking of an affair? Then think again.	This article describes the impact of affairs on loved ones and offers practical advice before having an affair.
65	Tantrums getting the better of you?	Sure kids protest, but how do you handle the behaviour in the two to three year old? This article offers suggestions.
66	A Brief Synopsis of Child Sexual Abuse from Onset to Adult Life	This article describes the process of childhood sexual abuse and impact on child, then adult functioning and concludes with how to help.
67	Safe From Strangers	Child abduction is every parents nightmare. This article offers thoughts and tips to help keep children safer.
68	Do You Have a Wholesome Family?	This article summarizes a survey to define a wholesome family and offers tips to become one.
69	Terrible Twos	This article offers advice on understanding and managing the behaviour of two-year-olds.
70	Catch a Kid Doing Good	This article reminds us of the importance of noticing good behaviour.
71	Choose How You Parent	Remembering how you were raised can help you make choices with how you raise your kids.
72	Four Tips To Self Esteem In Children	Like the title says... Four tips to self esteem...
73	Golden rules page	Taken from my book - tips to remember...
74	Holiday Excitement	How to manage the behaviour of kids through holiday excitement.
75	Is your teen drug dependent	Would you recognize if your teen uses drugs. This article may help.
76	Leaving the nest	Leaving home... the nice way.
77	Let them remember their behavior	Tips for effective discipline.
78	Parenting Teens	Check out the difference in parenting teens vs. the younger child.
79	Raising Responsible Teens	Monitoring your teen is a good thing... Do it like this.
80	Recipe for a Healthy Child	Bake a kid? Here's how to bake a good one.
81	Self Esteem vs. Self Righteousness	So what's the difference? Check it out...
82	Tips for the Best Father's Day	The title says it all!

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